thats right folks, I am putting forward an idea that maybe part of this site could add dating to it.
the reason
who know actors better than other actors
and yes I am putting myself up and forward to say I am single , I am looking for Miss right or as close as we can get because
life is to short to go through the chase the list of many , many women
so come on lets have your thoughts on this suject
have i gone to far? i am some sort of nut?
Editorial Comment We'd prefer to keep dating from table and for CCP to be a professional site for actors. That said, the networking side really seems to be taking off and the green room's buzzing. We'll look into doing another social event (we had our first one just before Christmas, which was very popular... if somewhat crowded!).
As it happens, we do run a dating site: SnogLondon.com and any members of CCP are welcome to join, create a profile and we'll give you free membership.
Sample Profile
You're also welcome to pass this offer on to non-CCP members: www.snoglondon.com/valentine
I find that whilst people in the business may understand what you're going through, somebody who has a "normal" job can provide you with...
(a)stability - financially and emotionally (financially as they bring in a regualar income and emotionally as they know how their immediate working life is panning out, unlike us!).
(b)routine - I think one of the hardest things, especially when times are bleak is remaining continually motivated. It helps you mold a working week.
(c)It helps you switch off - When times are tough you need to be able to forget about things (only temporarily of course!), so you can return rejuvenated and approach everything with a fresh perspective. Having a partner who doesn't know the ins and outs of what you're doing helps you shut it out for a while.
I understand what you mean by them being understanding of the profession, but surely the best thing is just to have somebody who is understanding in general. As this quality stretches to more than just work!
Thats just my opinion of course. Feel free to print it then burn it if your experiences have taught you differently. ;o)
well lets look at marrige and stuff like that
for example the late great john thaw (sorry i think i spelt that wrong) and shila hancock (great as well) maried for years then again other acotrs have been married for a couple of months then break apart
i belive this is down to the personalty of the people involed so some might be happy with people outside the biz then others are happy with people who know whats going on
lets keep it simple if it works for one set might not work for another
people are people , life is life
we all diffrent , we cannot use one set of rules for one person and belive the same set of rules will work with another
well thats my 2p worth
anyone else?
I'm with you on the switching off, not the other two. You don't want someone who never talks about anything BUT the business. Normality is always appreciated, but that's findable anywhere (you'd think).
I've been with my partner 17 years - he is not in the business. We're like chalk and cheese which is why I think it works.
Can't get over the fact that all you good-looking guys 'n gals are SINGLE!! You should all defo meet up very soon and then we could have the first CCP wedding or civil partnership!
Well I go out with someone becaue of who they are not what they do, being an actoir doesn;t automatically make you fun outgoing and talkative, trust me I have met actors who were so boring I swear you would think they were in a coma!
Stuart, I agree!
All you lovely single people staring each other in the face.You never know at the nest ccp event you could meet the man or woman of your dreams! ........
I have found it is hard to get a relationship going from my observations at college (where i became jaded,lol!) as most (not all) of the guys in this biz are not 'into girls' shall we say (which is fair enough!) and the ones that are into the girls (again only what i have found and not a sweeping statement to tar everyone with the same brush )make a point of being straight and go through as many ladies as they can just because the ratio is greater of girls than boys. so i gave up even waiting for a nice guy. Out of the business the rats that try and chat you up/date you are just so horrid, they don't understand that kissing another actor as part of a play is not grounds for threatening the actor not to touch their 'missus' and making 'normal life' difficult as the jealousy gets too much.I never even bother saying i'm a dancer anymore as that usually translates to pole dancer and not ballet/musical theatre in pub talk.....oy! so in short.....yes it's hard but Im happy as i am for the minute.Rather lose myself in a show than sacrifice something ive worked hard for just for a cuddle and a dvd infront of the sofa with someone who doesnt understand you.
So in conclusion for all those CCPers seeking mr/ms right just meet someone you are compatible with, be they tall, short, actor, accountant, funny, boring blah blah blah... :o)
The kissing thing is soooooo true! My ex couldn't get her head around the concept that it was acting. I was required to kiss an actress in a short film and my ex blew her stack. She announced that she was going out into town to find a fit bloke to snog because it was no different to what I was going to do the next day on set. Silly girl....
Performing love scenes is actually quite a stressful, mechanical process and not in the least bit romantic or sensual. I don't know about anyone else but when I've had to do any love scenes in a film, the only thing wooden is my acting!
when all is said and done
we find ourselfs alone in this world
for however many days we are given
so if you find that m/f weather they work
here or else where
just go for it
and if you find it dos'nt work with one
try another ,
well i have said , i have done on this subject
now let who ever is ment to come , come
Oops! sorry Mark!
Didn't mean to rock the boat, I was only going on the 'Lads' at my college and like i said didnt want to tar everyone with the same brush....I'm sure a lot of the guys were genuine but it just takes That One Idiot and his mates to put a girl off from finding out...it really does!:(
I'm going to get everyone thinking I'm a bitter old spinster now *mock theatrical sobs*.....lol!
An intereseing and scary topic to get involved in but hey...bored watching re-runs of Buffy!
I dated an actress for 10 months and since we were both touring it was sooo hard! Everytime you see each other you have to pick up and start again almost...get used to being around each other again etc...It's like, love isn't enough when you only see each other at the odd weekend!!
People say that acting is incestuous and well, of course it is...you live and work with people on such deep levels all the time that the boundaries often get blurred.
It seems that we must make so many sacrifices in this business. And this sometimes involves leaving people behind.
I guess it is so hard to find, as an actor, the one person who will understand and commit to you and your career. The one that will give you an all trusting, all encompassing relationship. However, when that one person is found I imagine (!) that it will be all the more special!
I agree with the fact that being an actor is quite ofter a turn off, well in my experience. Just after I graduated I started dating my ex boyfriend from when I was 16, we were together for a year, just split up 2wks before christmas. A very sad time for me, I reap the sympathy! BUT my point is, he was very financialy secure and as I was doing TIE at the time and being out of work for perhaps a month at a time he wouldnt like this, and kept asking me if I was going to do any Nursing shifts. It was ok to introduce me as a Nurse but I think he, and others think of actors as unstable. I dont know but I think that if I was still a Staff Nurse I'd still be with my boyfriend. It does put pressure on relationships without a boubt but whats for you wont go by you, and Ive said that to myself a million times this month already. It depends on what you want more, I could have jacked this all in, gone back to the hospital and still (maybe)had the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with BUT I couldnt have let all this go just for 'what might be'... Good luck in the hunt for a partner, I sometimes think dating a fellow actor solves all the problems we are otherwise up against. Im depresing myself now, and so near to Valentines day. Iona x
I am single and looking towards spending yet another valentines alone (Sniff, Sniff). I have never dated another actor. I like to keep my professional life separate and feel that there could be possibilities that things might over lap and cause conflict in the relationship. Having said that I guess you can't knock till you've tried it! X
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